Business (and Life) Advice to My Former Self

This October marks the 13th anniversary of my becoming a Realtor®

I am a much different version of myself than I was back in 2004, WAY more aligned with my authentic self than ever before. So if I were able to give my former self some business and life in general advice, I’d tell her:

You have unique gifts, talents, abilities and you express them as only you can. Your gifts and talents are the reason you’re here, share them freely with everyone around you.

Not everyone will like, approve of, or become a close connection. In fact some will criticize, judge, ridicule and even attack you. BE YOURSELF anyway, your value and worthiness have nothing to do with anything or anyone outside of yourself.

Find your tribe and love them fiercely. Your tribe consists of loving, supportive, heartfelt, vulnerable, messy, complicated, inspiring, all kinds of badass people and they cannot wait to meet you.

Trust Yourself. Your intuition, that inner sense and knowing without being able to explain how or why you “just know”, trust it. Justifying, rationalizing, people pleasing, anything not aligned with your values….Let. It. Go. I promise, it will clear and open up space for all kinds of magical and amazing people and experiences to arrive.

As Brene Brown writes: “Don’t shrink, don’t puff up, just stand your sacred ground”. Don’t dim your light for the comfort of anyone else, don’t shrink and hide yourself away, you’re here to be as absolutely you as you can possible be.

Anything (people, relationships, situations) that seems to require force or that simply don’t fit aren’t worth your time and energy.

Get crystal clear on what your highest core values are and evaluate everything in your life by whether it aligns with those values. Integrity, Respect, Trust, Humor, Loyalty, Honesty, Authenticity.

No. It’s a complete sentence. Remember that in some cases saying no is actually saying a huge and heartfelt YES to yourself. And that is beautiful.

My dear former self, I can’t tell you that the next thirteen years will be easy. They won’t be and you’ll have tremendous moments of self doubt and internal criticism. I can tell you that I’m standing on the other side cheering you on and there is much wisdom waiting within the path you’re about to embark upon.

Copyright©2017 by Diane McDermott, All Rights Reserved, “Business (and Life) Advice to My Former Self”

The content of this blog is the original content of Diane McDermott, NC Residential Real Estate Broker in Charlotte NC’s real estate market serving neighborhoods in Charlotte NC

 

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You Are a Badass Books

Jen SinceroLast weekend I had the opportunity to meet Jen Sincero, author of the amazing books You Are a Badass and her latest book You Are a Badass at Making Money.

She was in Charlotte at the Park Road Books store speaking and signing copies of her books, both of which are all kinds of AWESOME badassery.

Jen spoke to a room full of people who soaked in her message with much gratitude and respect for her work. She was warm, witty, engaging and totally her own badass self. It. Was. Amazing.

I was there with several friends and all of us are badass in our own unique way. One of the most beautiful parts of the experience was being around other people who are showing up and honoring their authentic, brilliant selves all while doing great work within the community and in each other’s lives. This is my tribe and I ADORE them!

For decades I ignored my own intuition and talked or rationalized myself out of what I sensed without being able to explain how or why. The past few years have included many lessons in trusting and believing in my own intuition and allowing that part of myself back into my own life.

And I realized that trusting and recognition of my own inner badass is exactly what I do with my buyer clients. Empowering, guiding and supporting them as they discover and unleash their own inner badass, remembering that they are more powerful than perhaps they’ve ever realized.

Every time I’ve stifled, ignored or talked myself into ignoring my own intuition it’s led me into situations that required a whole lot of energy to release and change. Not least of which is referenced in my post Sometimes a First House is Like a First Husband. This more recent honoring and trusting myself is a whole lot easier and also a LOT more fun and joyful on a daily basis.

I highly recommend both of Jen Sincero’s Badass books, they are hilarious, real, honest and might just open up an entirely new perspective for you. I know they did just that for me.

I love seeing clients achieve their home buying goals and realizing THEY are a badass at buying a home! Many of those clients also inspire me with their unique badass style.

Copyright©2017 by Diane McDermott, All Rights Reserved, “You Are a Badass Books”

The content of this blog is the original content of Diane McDermott, NC Residential Real Estate Broker in Charlotte NC’s real estate market serving neighborhoods in Charlotte NC

 

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