Easy and Simple Evaluation Tool

There’s a simple and easy tool for evaluating decisions, a version of which I always share with buyers. It’s also a great way to tap into your intuition with ANY decision.

Ask yourself: Does this feel heavy or light?

The key is to stop and instead of letting your mind answer, FEEL the answer.

Here’s the thing. I don’t care whether the decision is about a house, a relationship or what to have for lunch. Anything that feels heavy right now, is only going to get heavier and heavier as time goes on.

This simple question cuts through the mental justification process and allows you to tune into your heart. Or gut, or inner knowing, higher wisdom whatever you’d like to call it.

Try it the next time you have a decision to make. I use this myself ALL the time and it’s simple but very effective at slicing through bs to what feels most right and true for me.

The other version of this is: If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.

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How to Lose Friends, Clients and Connections

There’s a really easy and surefire way to lose friends, clients and connections that aren’t aligned with you:

  • Get crystal clear on your values, then honor and uphold them at all times, regardless of what anyone else says or does.

Back before I knew what my values are (honesty, integrity, loyalty, etc) I was a powerful magnet for all sorts of bio-energetic vampires. It was like moths being drawn to a flame. Except it wasn’t at all fun to be that particular flame.

Now that I DO know what my values are, it’s so easy to discern when something (or someone) isn’t in alignment.

This can feel alarming at first and the old me would attempt to hold onto non-aligned connections. I couldn’t see that by leaving they’d clear space for even better friends, clients and connections.

When I meet anyone that’s not a fit it’s usually clear pretty quickly. And while I certainly do know that dance of misconnection, the shoes no longer fit.

You’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and sometimes people come into our lives and the connection fades for any number of reasons. All of that…..is perfectly ok.

I choose to focus my time, energy and resources on the people, experiences and connections that are most closely aligned with what I value. It really makes for a far more fun and enjoyable life experience.

The connections in our lives are a garden and weeding is a natural part of caring for and ensuring it’s growth.

The best part of losing friends, clients and connections? Clarity and intentionally honoring your values makes you a truly powerful magnet for connections that ARE in alignment with those values.

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