To be fair, credit for this title goes to my dear friend Trish who is as brilliant with words as I am. In one of our recent (lengthy) conversations about people and connections she said “it’s time to stop watering fake plants” and I love that way of looking at it.
When it comes to connection and relationships of ANY kind there are real, authentic, genuine, heartfelt, passionate and true connections. And there are alllllll of the rest which fall firmly in the fake plant category.
Where are you spending your time? Is it on the uplifting and heartfelt relationships or are you spending time watering fake, shallow or disingenuous connections?
I am nothing if not intentional about my time. Quality time is a huge factor for me in all of my relationships.
The month of December is always highly social and demanding on my time. This year more than ever I’ve been pulled in what feels like five million directions. To say I’m protective of my calendar in December is a severe understatement.
For those who DO get time on my December calendar, without question they must be people who not only do I love being around, they feed my soul or I’m intrigued enough to get to know them better.
Years past the old me would have allowed non-essential and non-priority people to suck the energy and life right out of me in December. Not anymore. I cannot and will not water fake plants or connections.
It’s a little scary just how good I am at blocking people on social media. Once you show me you’re out of alignment with my values, I can and will quickly implement very clear boundaries.
I lived my life for a very long time watering fake plants and all I can say is that it was exhausting. These days I intentionally nurture, cultivate and appreciate the connections that are precious to me beyond words.
Looking at the fake plants can be uncomfortable but reclaiming the water that you’ve spent trying to feed them is absolutely liberating.
There are more than 7 billion people on the planet, I assure you I do not need nor do I want that many connections. Not everyone will earn a seat at the table of your life. The ones who DO earn those seats must always be the heartfelt genuine connections, at least for me.
In addition to making me laugh, the best people in my life are those I embrace with open arms and have a level of trust that goes beyond words.
Stop watering the fake plants in your life and start giving that water to the connections that really and truly matter.
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