I’ve always had a pretty low tolerance for both superficial and drama but lately that tolerance continues to drop. To the point that both have become things I’m allergic to and actively avoid. Active avoidance is totally a thing as is active ignoring, both of which I regularly practice when it comes to people. Boundaries.
I find superficial conversations completely exhausting and drama to be a heavy and dangerous pathway leading directly away from joy and fun.
What’s really interesting is that the more aware I am of these allergies, the more I can actually sense their presence and take steps to move in a different direction.
There was a time when people who are huge fans of both drama and all things superficial got quite close to me. But as they were lacking depth, the connections didn’t last. In some cases I removed myself and in others I removed access and just stopped engaging with them.
My closest friends know I am most comfortable with depth and joy, which are the antithesis of both drama and superficiality.
I actually notice and use as an indicator of connection potential in all of my relationships: Can you keep up with conversation and can we go deeper than the superficial? The BEST conversations, connections and clients are those that meet both questions with a resounding and clear yes.
It’s a lot easier and less painful for me to weed people out sooner rather than later so I can focus on the connections that prove truly worthy of my time and energy. Quality is a huge priority. More and more I find myself not just tired of but actually allergic to both drama and superficial conversation and connections.
I have a reputation as the “Queen of One on Ones” and I’ve had some horrific one on one experiences in the past, including but by no means limited to the very first guy I met for coffee after my divorce last year. To be clear: he was very nice, I was just bored out of my mind and it was all superficial conversation that I pretty much carried.
As my focus shifts to recognizing (and listening to) my own intuition I’m finding it’s a lot easier to focus on the much more aligned connections in my life. While allowing the superficial and drama focused ones to fade away.
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