As someone who is solidly growth focused and oriented, getting comfortable being uncomfortable is a process. I feel as though I’ve earned a doctorate in personal growth and self awareness these past few years and honestly, none of it was at all comfortable.
Change, transition and growth of any kind are naturally uncomfortable because they’re new and unfamiliar.
There’s a quote that the author Mel Robbins (The Five Second Rule and Stop Saying You’re Fine) shared on her Instagram stories a few months ago: “the price of your new life is your old life”. I love that quote.
It’s relevant when it comes to familiarity with old and outdated (or limiting) beliefs, habits, patterns or behavior. You are the one you’ve been waiting for. You’re also only and always the one with the ability to change your life.
The warrior journey isn’t about combat, it’s about surrender. Which to a recovering people pleaser and control freak is SUPER uncomfortable. Yet also immensely powerful and groundbreaking.
A friend “suggested” aka illuminated in her unique way that boundaries and intuition are two of my most natural gifts. Stepping into owning those gifts? It’s WAY out of my familiar comfort zone.
Trusting myself is an ongoing process and I don’t always get it right. But I’m working on allowing myself to lean into it and really get curious while also considering how I want to proceed.
I once asked a friend when the transformation eases up and her answer was “Di, I don’t think it does. I think you just stop getting quite so dizzy as you go”.
Trusting myself, honoring my intuition and boundaries, sharing my natural gifts, talents and abilities does not come easily to me. Yet the wisdom I’ve gained through life experience has shown me that the price of ignoring them is steeper than I’m willing to pay.
So, I’ll keep getting even more comfortable being uncomfortable. One step and one moment at a time. Progress not perfection. I’m FAR less dizzy right now than I’ve been throughout the past three years and for that I’m deeply grateful and so very proud of how far I’ve come.
Surrender and trust aren’t weakness, there’s immense power within them. My closest circle is full of people who are also always navigating these same challenges. They are my fiercest advocates and most brutal mirrors, confronting me in ways that are intense beyond belief but doing so from a place of such deep trust and love. I cannot imagine my life without them in it.
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