I’ve been playing this forgiveness and compassion game for a couple of years now and it can actually be fun in addition to the peace and calm it brings.
The ideal arena for playing is while driving. It works particularly well while driving around Charlotte while it’s raining but any weather condition will do. When water falls from the sky, Charlotte area drivers literally forget all common sense so that’s a super solid opportunity to play this game.
The game is quite simple and totally internal, as are the benefits. When a driver does something either stupid, dangerous or just outright unbelievable take a deep breath and remind yourself “they are doing the best they can right now”.
Forgiveness for whatever they did or did not do, because the reality is they did or did not do it and wishing any differently is an exercise in futility.
Compassion in acknowledging that they are doing the best they can at this moment. Even when we may wish they were at 95% capacity and the best they’ve got in this moment is 50%. You will never know what someone else is experiencing. Extending compassion isn’t a free pass, but it sets you free of wishing they’d behaved differently.
Forgiveness and compassion aren’t about condoning bad behavior. They are both only and always for the benefit of your own peace and dare I suggest sanity. You don’t have to be friends, you just encountered them on the road.
Playing this game while driving is so simple yet the impacts can be profound. And maybe you could also consider extending the same forgiveness and compassion toward yourself at times.
We are human and this life is messy. I know that as I learn I can intentionally choose differently. I also know I’m typically doing the best I can with what I know and what my current capacity includes.
Maybe those crazy, erratic, maddening other drivers are also doing the best they can at that moment. Allowing for that possibility may just make it at least a little less intense during or just after an encounter with one of them.
Playing this game can also make it easier to extend forgiveness and compassion in ALL other areas of your life. Stay curious and you never know what may unfold. All I know is that forgiveness and compassion are anything but weakness, they are powerful tools of liberation.
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