The Scent of Divorce

Apparently there’s a candle called Freshly Signed Divorce Papers. Seriously, check it out if you know of anyone who is recently divorced or will experience that milestone soon.

What does the scent of divorce actually smell like? While the short answer is freedom and rebirth, the more accurate answer is a bit less light and airy.

The true scent of divorce is overpoweringly permeated with the smoldering and charred remnants of everything in your life that was once familiar. And if you’ve ever been near a fire pit, campfire or the fallout of any large blaze…..that scent is clingy and it tends to linger. A long while. The kind of lingering that holds on even after repeated washing and cleansing and sometimes catches you off guard because you thought it was gone.

BUT. As someone standing on the other side of that shit show, I can tell you that it does fade. And as it does, just as in nature where everything is cyclical: after the destruction and carnage, the scent of new life begins to emerge. Fresh, clean, tender at first but deeply rooted and steeped in strength.

Life is messy. And none of us gets through this messy life without some cracks, scars, bruises or pain. But on the other side of those experiences is so often beauty we can’t even begin to imagine or comprehend.

What can seem like our worst experiences can actually become the fertilizer and new soil for us to bloom, expand and shine more brilliantly than we ever have before. The launching pad for a more amazing and fulfilling life than we’ve ever experienced.

As I’ve shared before, Divorce Is Not Failure, Divorce is Death and sometimes previous versions of ourselves need to be shed in order for an even brighter and more authentic version to emerge and take center stage in our own lives.

So if you know anyone going through divorce, or just know a cool divorce attorney that would appreciate and see the humor in it, maybe the Freshly Signed Divorce Papers candle is appropriate. From the reviews, the candle actually does smell good.

As Glennon Doyle shared in one of her IG stories today: “If you’re ever faced with a choice between saving your marriage and saving your soul. Save. Your. Soul.” I could NOT agree more, save your soul every damn time….because the only one with the power to do that is you.

Onward and upward. Always 🙂

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The content of this blog is the original content of Diane McDermott, NC Residential Real Estate Broker in Charlotte NC, Heartfelt, Empowering Real Estate in Charlotte NC

 

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About dianemcdermott

Diane is deeply passionate about serving single and divorced women home buyers, first time home buyers and new to the area buyers navigate the Charlotte area home buying process. Having navigated separation and divorce she has deep respect for the stress of transition and need for a home living situation that supports and nurtures. She connects and guides clients as they navigate the home buying process, transitioning to a space they'll love calling home. McDermott Real Estate
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2 Responses to The Scent of Divorce

  1. Great post. Thank you for the encouragement, it’s good to hear from people who have come out the other side! I’m still in the thick of it. 😦

  2. Thank you for the feedback! You can and are doing this, I’m cheering you on 🙂

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