The Price of External Justification

Using and allowing external justifications for relationships, situations or decisions carries an invisible cost: Your internal peace and joy.

Justifying anything with something external is a choice even when we don’t consciously realize we’re making that choice.

I did this myself for years with my marriage, work and professional relationships and clients. My own external justifications were often tied to what I perceived as the expectations of other people, real or in many cases only imagined.

Ignoring my internal wisdom exacted a price of my internal joy and peace since I wasn’t in alignment with what I wanted, needed, craved and was instead allowing my life experiences and decisions to be at the mercy of anything but my own internal truth.

Allowing external justifications to influence my decisions led to me living in a house I didn’t love (see How Sometimes a First House is Like a First Husband) along with many other less than joyful experiences.

External justifications are a crappy reason to do anything and they come with the silent but significant cost of internal joy and peace.

Throughout the home buying process, if something doesn’t feel right to you TRUST that. Even (maybe especially) if you can’t explain it. Using external justifications for any major life decision is a highway to regret, resentment and frustration. Trust yourself to know what is and what is not right for you.

By the way, this also applies to the very decision of whether to buy a home as well as whether to buy a home with another person. Homeownership isn’t ideal for everyone or for everyone all the time, and it’s never a decision that needs to include justification based on anything but your own preferences, needs, wants and desires.

Copyright©2017 by Diane McDermott, All Rights Reserved, “The Price of External Justification”

The content of this blog is the original content of Diane McDermott, NC Residential Real Estate Broker in Charlotte NC’s real estate market serving neighborhoods in Charlotte NC




About dianemcdermott

Diane is deeply passionate about serving single and divorced women home buyers, first time home buyers and new to the area buyers navigate the Charlotte area home buying process. Having navigated separation and divorce she has immense respect for the stress of transition and need for a home living situation that supports and nurtures. She connects and guides clients as they navigate the home buying process, transitioning to a space they'll love calling home. McDermott Real Estate
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