Stress Relief During the Home Buying Process

This is one of the least discussed yet integrally important aspects for anyone in the process of buying a home. Stress relief and self care are valid and useful considerations yet we often don’t discuss or give them much thought.

The process of buying a home is stressful. That’s not an optional ingredient in the process, going through the process of buying a home is going to create and present stress.

Different levels and intensity of stress at different points in the process and certainly for some the amount or experience of stress will vary but it’s a given that you’ll experience stress.

So what are some things you may want to keep in mind and use as needed?

Like the experience of stress, the validity of stress relief or reducers will look different for different people. For example, I tend to hold tension and feel stress most in my shoulders or neck so  for me intentional relaxation, stretching, even exercise work to release it. Personally I’m not into massages but those can work for some people.

Some simple stress relievers to consider:

Take a walk. Around the block, in nature, at a park, in the parking lot, wherever. Getting outside and walking for even 10 or 15 minutes can help

Meditation, again even 10 minutes can help

Journaling. This one is a favorite of mine and has become a daily morning practice. I’ve also been known to put myself in “adult time out” to journal out the crap in my head.

Talk and vent to trusted and confidential resources. Hopefully your buyers agent is one of these resources! I work with a lot of clients who are verbal processors and I’m a natural listener so together we can work through the stress points as they process by talking/venting.

Do something small that brings you joy. Playing with pets, lighting a favorite candle, reading, taking a bath, whatever makes you more relaxed and again it doesn’t have to be the entire day.

Give yourself credit. Find one (or more) thing at the end of the day that either went well or that you’re proud of yourself for accomplishing. This is the one my own inner critic intensely resists!

Focus on the next step. Overwhelm can become a runaway train, bring the focus back to literally what is the next right step that you can take and that’s fully within your ability to impact.

The process of buying a home is a tremendous trigger of stressful moments, situations and self induced worry, frustration and doubt. Remember that it’s not weird or bad, or anything other than a part of the process. It’s also completely OK to stop and take a few (or 30) minutes to do something that will help to reduce that stress for you.

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Me Too: The Power of Sharing Your Story

Right now there are tons of #metoo posts circulating on social media. The viral nature of these posts being shared highlights what I’ve experienced and witnessed in my own life these past few years. The healing and connective power of sharing our stories and speaking our truths.

When speaking publicly to groups about my story and life experience as well as the wisdom I’ve learned, when sharing one on one with people in my life personally and professionally. Whenever and wherever I’ve shared any of my story and shed light on the topic of divorce, separation, grief and the death of that relationship the response has consistently remained the same.

It extends an invitation and opens the door for others to feel safe sharing and speaking their own stories and truths. To whisper (or shout) Me Too. To witness and know that others have gone through such an experience and come out the other side not just ok but with far more wisdom than before. The healing and connection power arise when we gift one another with the truth and understanding that we are not alone.

In their book, Option B, Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant speak to the stigma of silence that’s the default for our society when it comes to grief, loss and any of the less than pleasant human experiences that we ALL encounter at one point or another. The same human experiences that hold within them the opportunity for us to grow closer and connect with each other more deeply.

If we stay silent we deny ourselves that opportunity for connection at a deeper and more truthful level. We deny and keep out the very people that we might have more in common with than we can yet imagine.

It is true that not everyone in your life may be able to receive your story and hold it with respect, grace and compassion. And that’s ok! But the ones that can, those are the magical and heartfelt people you just might relate to and connect with more than you’ve imagined possible.

By sharing your story, you just might inspire someone else to do the same. And the world needs authentic and genuine wholehearted people now more than ever. This human experience is messy, complicated, brutal and heartbreaking. It is also beautiful, inspiring, brilliant and breathtaking.

My life is FULL of amazing, inspiring people who’ve chosen to drop the pretense that all of our days are all awesome, all day every day. We know better than that and we show up for and with each other anyway, celebrating the beautiful and holding space for one another through the brutal.

We each have a story, if you’re inspired to share yours we would love to hear it.

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