The Freedom of Clearing Cyber Clutter

First of all, cyber clutter is a very real thing and it lives on our phones, devices and computers. Perhaps it’s most notable in our email inboxes though my own contact list and photo galleries could be called into question.

A while ago I got really intentional and really consistent at not just keeping up with email but actually clearing out my primary email folders. If not daily, usually weekly and by clearing out I mean there were literally NO emails in those folders.

Then I got away from that habit. Then it became overwhelming. More recently I’ve been actively ignoring several of those folders and in a couple of months it really got out of hand.

Cyber clutter is a visual and awareness irritant to me. I know it’s there even when I’m not reading or looking at it. That awareness of it brings stress and this weekend I decided some clearing and revising was in order.

So my trusted friends (Delete, File, Unsubscribe, and Block) joined me and together we cleaned up ALL of my gmail inbox folders. Unsubscribe and Block were particularly helpful in putting boundaries in place so such messiness doesn’t rapidly reappear.

File and I created many new folders to neatly hold all emails that I didn’t yet have a place for but do indeed want or need to have a record of in some way.

It feels like such an immense RELIEF to have my email back to an easily manageable status. Seriously, just knowing how ridiculously out of control my email had gotten was an invisible source of stress and overwhelm.

At the end of today I permanently deleted over 3,900 emails. And you know what? The world didn’t end and I feel so much more peace and productivity.

Cyber clutter is very real and the release of it can be just as liberating as getting rid of tangible items.

My newly refreshed email folders lasted about 5 minutes before another one arrived. But 1 or a few emails are far easier to manage than the thousands previously occupying that space.

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The content of this blog is the original content of Diane McDermott, NC Residential Real Estate Broker in Charlotte NC, Heartfelt, Empowering Real Estate in Charlotte NC

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Ghosts of Past Connections

Connections are an interesting thing and there’s a fluidity and flexibility to them that I continue to witness.

Within the past few months ghosts of past connections have been showing up in a variety of ways for me. Everything from names being mentioned in conversation to me literally walking right by someone I used to know.

The most interesting awareness has been noticing my lack of reaction to all of it. Other than the recognition that we are not and will never again be connected. In any way.

Connection and at a deeper level heartfelt connection is a core value of mine. It has been a true benchmark in discerning the people in my life as well as the level of access they have earned.

There are some former connections that simply faded away, some that I intentionally withdrew from, and some that required me cutting them out of my life. When I have to cut it is swift, complete and non-negotiable.

In almost every single case, releasing those connections shared a few common themes: lack of shared values, effort rather than ease, and  not least of all clearing space for aligned connections to show up.

I may go from too many to zero fucks given to relationships of all kinds. It’s a learning curve but I’ll make no apologies for navigating this journey as I see fit and honoring myself and my values along the way.

Encountering ghosts of past connections these past few months continues to illuminate the fact that they no longer haunt my life. Freedom doesn’t always arrive all at once, sometimes it’s a process. A process that isn’t always easy or linear.

All of the ghosts of past connections brought wisdom and insight and for that I’m grateful. There is magic in both light and in darkness.

To the brilliant, beautiful, passionate, aligned people who continue to edge ever closer in access to me….let’s go have some more damn FUN this year and beyond. I love us.

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